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Victory on Common Signs of Trouble in Boys

Victory Boys Academy understands that when children start spinning out of control they usually exhibit many different signs of behavior. Unfortunately, many parents often write-off these signs as normal adolescent behavior. As a result they don’t realize that their child is into drugs or other at-risk behavior until it is too late. So how can you as a loving parent know for sure whether or not your child is in danger? Simple … by understanding that every child is in danger of this. The parent who says “not my kid” is the same parent who will miss all the signs that their child has started experimenting with drugs, promiscuity, illegal activities or other troubled behavior. Often they will stay in this state of denial until their son or daughter is in real trouble. So what should you, as caring parents, look for?

1. Dramatic changes in style of clothes, hair, music — an excessive need to “fit in” with their peers

These outward signs should be obvious to a parent. Has your child started listening to radically different music, dressing differently, asking to get tattoos or piercings, or coloring their hair some weird color just to fit in? Maybe they dress differently, or in a provocative way to fit in with friends at school? All of these are outward signs that your child is succumbing to negative peer pressure.

2. Tardiness and/or truancies

You need to stay in touch with your child’s school. Never assume that the school will be in touch with you if there is a problem. If your child is getting into drugs or alcohol, they’ll most likely start ditching class from time to time. Kids who do this tend to take off during the middle of school and get stoned somewhere near the campus. Don’t assume that their school will let you know about this kind of behavior. And you need to realize, kids are great at covering up this kind of behavior. Every teen knows how to forge their parent’s signature — no joke. Call your child’s school from time to time and ask about their attendance record. You need to take the initiative here!

3. Isolating from family

Does your teen suddenly act distant? Do they constantly want to be with friends, get away from home, have secret sleep-overs with friends of parents you do not know? When your teen has gone missing for a time and you ask what they’ve been up to, is his reply vague, defensive, or not reply at all? Does he want to eat in his room or at a friends’ house all the time instead of with the family? Children are smart – they know that the easiest lie to tell is the one they can avoid having to tell. If your child doesn’t tell you what they’ve been up to, there’s a good chance he’s hiding something.

4. Changes in attitude and personality

Does it seem like your child is suddenly a completely different person with a new personality which you don’t like? Has their tone become tough and disrespectful? If they’re experimenting with at-risk behavior, there’s a good chance you’ll be seeing these kinds of attitude changes. Often parents just see this as normal teenage behavior and write it off. Don’t make this mistake . . . otherwise you might overlook one of the most obvious signs.

5. Changes in sleep patterns

Sleep changes should be fairly obvious. Does your teen stay up late (or even all night) frequently, refusing to get up in the morning at a decent time. Does your child sleep way too much or way too little. If they’re not sleeping much, there’s a good chance stimulant drugs are being used.

6. Eating way too much or way too little

Here’s another obvious sign of drug experimentation or bulimia, that is often overlooked as normal teenage behavior. Does your child come home in the afternoon after hanging out with friends and devour everything in the refrigerator? If your teen is smoking pot with friends, it wouldn’t be unusual to binge on more food than normal. And if they’re dealing with bulimia, they’ll eat a lot and then discretely go to the bathroom to purge.

7. Paranoia – everyone is out to get me

Does your teen treat everybody as if they were the enemy? Do they tend to express the idea that everybody is out to get them? Are they fearful to go to school, to athletic practice, or some other activity? Are there signs of overly paranoid, anxious and fearful reactions to you? This is not normal teenage behavior; you need to understand that. It could be that they’re being bullied or sexually abused, or substance usage makes your teen react that way. In any event, this warning sign means you need to get help for your child.

8. Experimenting with drugs or alcohol

Do your teen’s eyes look funny? Are the pupils real large or real small? Does your child wear sunglasses even at night and say they’re just trying to look cool? Do they suddenly show an interest in burning incense in their room? A person’s eyes show the effects of the drugs they are using. If you think your child is experimenting with drugs, watch their eyes. Are they red all the time? Glazed? If so, there’s a real good chance your child is using drugs or alcohol.

9. Sudden bursts of anger

Has your child recently developed a violent side? Are they prone to sudden, uncontrollable fits of anger? This doesn’t have to mean physically violent (though that is often the case) but can also be a teen who is always yelling or threatening people. Any of these things should be a warning sign to you that your child could be experimenting with alcohol or drugs, or that they’re being abused or bullied.

10. Lies!

If your child is experimenting with drugs, they will be telling lots of lies to cover this up. Teens tend to be very good at covering things up. If you start wondering whether or not your child is telling you the truth, there is a good chance that your instincts are right. Be persistent and learn what it is that they are trying to cover up.

11. Dramatic mood swings

Does your child seem overly happy and giddy one day, then terribly depressed the next day? Do your child’s emotions go up and down constantly? This is often confused with ‘normal’ teenage behavior, but it can also be an obvious sign of emotional or substance abuse issues. Don’t simply write it off.

12. Excessive money spending or money disappearing

If your child keeps coming to you needing money, or if money keeps coming up missing from your purse or your wallet, you need to have a serious talk with them. Especially if they always seem to need 20 dollars or 50 dollars — round amounts — since that is often the price of drugs.

13. Hanging out with a bad crowd (a different crowd than they used to)

Your child might try and tell you that they have new friends who are cool kids (and his old friends are not). But you need to take a close look at these ‘new’ kids. Chances are that the way these friends normally behave is the way your child also behaves when you’re not watching. Are some of your teen’s new friends using drugs or alcohol, or experimenting with sexual activities? If so, your teen is too. Your child’s friends are like a mirror for your teen — they look in the mirror and try to conform to what they see there. One of the best ways to get a good idea of what your child is like is to look at their new friends.

14. Excessive use of foul or obscene language

Has your child suddenly developed a filthy mouth? This might indicate that they’re giving into peer pressure from friends. This is a warning sign to you. If your child is trying to fit in with their friends by cursing, sooner or later your child will probably look for other ways to gain acceptance in their peer group.

We Want to Help Your Struggling Young Boy

At Victory Boys Academy, we believe that a program of consistent daily living can help your struggling young boy learn how to make the right decisions. Some boys simply need to learn the love of Christ. Some need a more concentrated effort to catch up in school. Some need to learn the importance of respecting others–and themselves. And some just need a change of environment.

Victory Boys Academy focuses on providing a nurturing learning environment for struggling young boys, in a safe, daily structured program that promotes personal, spiritual and academic growth.

Leading at-risk boys, ages 8-12, to be Godly and upright young men–that’s our purpose!

We want to help your struggling pre-teen boy. Please call us today. (417) 246-1114

 

 

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